Pleasure Centre: Kip by Dame Products - Par Femme

by Tabitha Laffernis

You know that old trick—the one where you stimulate a clitoris by spelling out the alphabet with your tongue? Try that with the Kip. Spell your name on a lover, play tic-tac-toe on your erogenous zones, draw a masterpiece of one of your French girls. 

Dame’s addition to the vibrator canon is punchy as all get-out. An external toy that lets you get creative, this bullet with a butterfly wing is compact, powerful and a dream to handle. 

Five different patterns ramp up through five different speeds. The power button doubles as the mode-changer, and a simple squeeze keeps you on track to an orgasm (or three). It features a cupped, pointed tip that flutters delicately like it’s been caught in a breeze. This brings precision to an otherwise very rumbly toy, so whichever way you bend, you’ll likely find an angle that works for you. Sweep the flat side across the vulva for broader stimulation, or concentrate the finer tips and edges around your clit for faster gratification.

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Some serious MIT engineering brains and sexologist training from the founders mean that this baby has some real thought behind it. Janet Lieberman and Alexandra Fine, the founders, are on the frontlines of the battle against the orgasm gap. Discovering that 91% of cis men reach orgasm “usually” or “always” during sex, but just 39% of cis women say the same, Lieberman and Fine took matters into their own hands, as it were. In the fight to take pleasure seriously (without forgetting the fun), it’s vindicating to know that some Dame-propelled petting engages both mind and body.  

Kip also comes with a rare perk—a travel lock. Being more portable than, say, a bunny or wand style, bullet and lipstick vibrators get a lot of their value from discretion. To turn the travel lock on, hold the power button for ten seconds—you’ll know it’s working by the light flashing at the base. To free it from the confines of your carry-on, simply reconnect it to the charger. 

It's also a great starter toy — its not disarmingly huge; it’s genuinely quiet (perfect if you’re in a share house!); it doesn’t look like a traditional vibe; and the shape allows you to explore different types of stimulation. The problem of recommending something as a starter toy, though, is that veterans might think it’s not right for them. That couldn’t be further from the truth—Kip’s effectiveness is matched by its versatility. And, you know, holiday season isn’t far away. Stocking-fillers, anyone?

Treat yourself to a Kip here

Tabitha Laffernis is a writer based in Sydney, Australia. Her short fiction has been published in Flapperhouse, Hobart, and Gigantic Sequins. You can keep tabs on her work here.



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